I understand why people say they were born that way. That rhetoric came about recently after years and decades of homosexuals being prosecuted. It is a defense. If they say there is no choice they have, (which is what it really feels like), then maybe people will be compassionate toward them. However, alcoholics feel like they have no choice- they can say they were born that way, so do drug addicts. These are also emotional problems– usually these people feel conflicted and uncared for. All of these individuals seek something outside of themselves to quench the issues within, finding no rest.

By JohnHuang2

Many years later as an adult in the early ’90s, I remember lying in bed together with my partner on a Tuesday night. Tuesday night was TV night for us. We’d both come home from work and after dinner, clean up and put on a pot of coffee. Then we would get into some comfy T-shirts and cuddle up with each other as we watched “Roseanne” and our other favorite shows. After the 11 o’clock news, we’d do some sit-ups, turn off the lights and peacefully fall asleep in each other’s arms. I clearly remember listening to the sounds of the crickets with a cool breeze blowing through our slightly opened windows. Our bedroom was filled with the romantic pale light of the moon and the star-studded New England night sky.

As I look back at that time in my life, I remember exactly how I felt. We had it all. We were on top of the world. A beautiful home, a dog, two cats, great friends and a loving, long-term, committed “storybook” relationship. No doubt, we were going to be partners for life. OK, so it wasn’t exactly as I pictured it years earlier with Lynn and Claire, but hey, he was the man of my dreams.

As I sit here now typing, burning the midnight oil, I hear those crickets outside my window. I can see that same pale moon resting in that same star-filled New England sky. My two little children are both fast asleep after daddy prayed with them and read them “Goldilocks and the Three Bears.” My beautiful wife also is sleeping tranquilly after reading her Bible and saying her prayers. She prays on her knees every night for our family members, as well as countless other families and friends across the country whose loved ones are entrapped in the homosexual lifestyle.

As I look back on all those years of Tuesday TV nights with my boyfriend, I realize the homosexual lifestyle was a deceitful counterfeit of the “real” thing. My partner and I were like the children in my childhood of days gone by. We were two men who thought we had the world in the palm of our hands – when in fact, we had nothing at all. We were two lost souls, living in a world of make believe – two emotionally hurting boys playing house, desperately clinging onto each other night after night, week after week, year after year.

As homosexual men and women across the country strive for their “special rights,” civil unions and ultimately same-sex marriages, I can attest firsthand these individuals are making every attempt to resolve their inner homosexual conflict. These are feelings, thoughts and actions most have had ever since childhood. Many have hidden and suppressed their homosexual feelings for so long, until they finally gave in and “came out” to the world. Their inner struggle for self-acceptance has turned into a misguided outward struggle for civil rights. With each battle won on local, state and federal levels, their pillage is America’s acceptance and tolerance. While they fill their storehouses with their vain plunder, they tirelessly continue their unending life-long search for their “holy grail”: self-acceptance. No matter how hard they search or how long they try, I’m afraid it is something that will never be found.

Homosexuality is clearly an outward expression of things going on much deeper in a person – issues for many originating back to their childhood.

For homosexual men, in most all cases it has everything to do with a lack of relationship with the father. For women, the problem can rest with the mother and/or father or another male figure. For some, molestation or a premature sexual experience was the lead in to the homosexual lifestyle. Whatever the factors may have been to drive someone down that unwanted homosexual path, we must remember one thing: No one was born homosexual. To state such a fact is a tragedy, as well as cop out.

Just as no one is born an alcoholic or a drug addict, the same must be said of the homosexual. “Issues” are what bring a person down these lonely, painful paths – issues when finally dealt with will allow the person to come out of their destructive behavior. You don’t need to be a psychologist to figure this one out.

In 1992, I became a Christian, accepting Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. When I fully understood the forgiveness God extended to me through the atoning blood of Jesus Christ, I realized the life-changing power that lay within this efficacious act. I knew that the forgiveness that was so graciously given to me now needed to be extended by me to someone else who needed it just as much: my father.

After 28 painful years of a damaged relationship with the one man whose love I craved and desired the most, my many years of wandering and numerous homosexual encounters came abruptly to an end.

It happened one morning in my parents’ kitchen. My father and I did something we never really did before – we talked. We both dealt with the past, we vented, we questioned, we understood and we healed. And in an emotional embrace I’ll never forget, we both did something else: We forgave. I have never been the same man since.

In a single moment of time, the doors to my painful childhood were slammed shut once and for all, never to be opened again. My homosexual needs and desires were gone and I was changed. Completely. My heavenly Father showed me by example what I needed to give to my earthly father. I crossed that fearful heterosexual threshold that so many other brave men and women in my shoes have done before me. And in doing so, I found something I never could have imagined – the cure for homosexuality. Forgiveness.

Our acceptance and tolerance of the ever-growing homosexual deviancy in America today is really a paradox. You see, we are actually committing a grave injustice toward these misled men and women. We’re not helping these people by affirming them, but actually hurting them even further. By enabling them to remain emotionally stunted and trapped in their pasts, we as a society play a major part in keeping them from their potential futures. And according to the Bible, as a nation, our acceptance and tolerance of homosexuality will keep us from our potential future as well.

I’ve found the cure for homosexuality. Forgiveness. Share it with your “gay” and lesbian friends. Give them some food for thought.

No doubt I am on a mission today: to bring the truth about homosexuality to the world – that no one is born homosexual, it has everything to do with the childhood, and complete change is possible. Completely possible. From the calls that are coming in weekly around the country from homosexual men and women themselves, I can tell you, this message is making a major impact … one forgiving heart at a time.

Fact: Woman + Woman = No Reproduction

Fact: Man + Man = No Reproduction

And you say this perversion is natural? According to what logic?

Fact: There is an increased risk of cancer for gay men: http://www.cancer.org/downloads/com/gay%20men%20cf%20brochure.pdf

change that will not DEGRADE society?

wake up, whoever you are. this change has and is taking place, and so far it does not seem to be the reason that society has fallen to degradation. we’re constantly facing war, poverty, hunger, global warming, corruption and violence and THIS is why society is being degraded. what does homosexuality have to do with anything? we’re killing each other daily and letting people take away from us the one thing that was once so important; our freedom from fear. and you’re worried that GAYS are wrecking the world? hold up, dude. the world is being wrecked by ALL OF US, gay or straight. being gay has nothing to do with someone’s morals or their perception or compassion. it doesn’t hold someone back from killing, but nor does it hold someone back from kindness.

like i said, its changing; the world, constantly, always. many years ago whites thought blacks were inferior, men thought women were inferior, hitler thought jews were chaff and straights thought gays were abnormal. we have come such a long way since then, and still we are stuck in rut. despite what a ‘modern’ world we claim to live in, what a ‘civilized’ species we claim to be and what a ‘progessive’ generation we say we are, we’re still unable to cope with or accept things that we do not understand. we’re threatened by things that are different and afraid of people who aren’t like us.

YOU are the one that needs help, fellow blogger. YOU are the one we should feel sorry for and try to help. YOU are the one we need to help lead a normal life. YOU are the one that’s warped. its YOUR opinions of righteousness and attitudes superiority that degrades society ultimately. its YOUR bigotry that leads to chaos and hurt and regression, as opposed to progression.

here we are, trying so hard to build a world where people understand and accept each other, or atleast want to. and there’s still so many of you, breaking it down bit by bit, what generations have strived to built, what thousands have fought to achieve. a legacy of evoloution and development is falling to pieces because of people like you. the more some people try to take 2 steps forward, the more there’s enough people to pull them 3 steps backward.

homosexuals don’t need treatment and they certainly don’t need your sympathy. you’re better off hating them than feeling sorry for them because atleast that way, it means you are accepting who they are. you don’t need to SAVE them, you don’t need to save anyone but yourself. we have all made our own choices and we don’t need to be rescued by anyone for the choices we have made.

be it genetic or optional, either way homosexuality gives you no reason to not accept it. if it is genetic and more biolgical than we think, then i hope you understand that that’s just the way some people are; it’s like being born asian or black, we didn’t choose it and we shouldn’t be crucified for the way it turned out. if it is a choice someone makes, no matter at what point in their lives, then so be it. that’s all the more reason to respect someone’s privacy and preference, more reason to respect someone’s personality and thus, their choices. after all, when did we lose the right to choose?

How come you haven’t addressed Sam’s point to Just Mal about the gender identity question reagarding what happened when his Grandma brought in more money that his Grandpa? For example, both my parents are professionals who have strong identities. They wont take any nonsense from anyone and I don’t think it would have affected my world perspective if they were both male or female.

At the end of the day what affects your perspective in your upbringing is probably going to be your parents’ personality traits, not their sexual traits. Who cares if you’re gay or straight as long as you’re a well adjusted individual who can function with no problems in society? I guess it would only be people who did not want society to be well adjusted, like anarchists, communists, or terrorist? Are you a terrorist? Ergo, by not condoning homosexuality you are a terrorist.

Who are you to define what is a degradation of society? God? Just because you see it as a degradation doesn’t mean it is so. I think it’s an uplifting of society when people show more tolerance to those who are different to them. Homophobia is similar in a way to racism, and anyone who has been on the receiving end of harsh racism will know it’s not nice. If someone is different to you, don’t attack them for it. Respect their right to live in freedom, the same freedom that you enjoy.

As some people said above, your views are very similar to racist views. Dislike of a group of people due to lack of understanding.

“Children need the love of a father and mother to grow up. Sadly like you say even hetro couples children have messed up. A child from a homo marriage will view the world from a different angle. The homo relationship is not normal it is not good for them to raise children.”

Again, who can define what is “normal”? Just because something has been done one way for a long time does not make it right. People thought the world was flat for a long time. Whites treated blacks as slaves for a long time. Nothing is “normal” in this world, because the world is constantly changing. You only think a father and mother are “normal” because you were brought up that way. You are conditioned to believe that. A child brought up by homosexual parents will be conditioned (and taught) to respect and love people of all sexualities, based on their personality, and not their sexual preference. Wouldn’t the world be a better place if all children were taught to love all kinds of people regardless of differences?

Someone said the most correct thing in one comment: don’t judge without understanding. Before you say gays are wrong, get to know them, see how they raise their children, and learn more about them first-hand. Then and only then will you be in a position to say whether you think they are wrong or right. You’re like the proverbial guy who judges a book by its cover. It looks scary and different, so you say it’s bad. But have you taken the time to look deeper into it?

You need to do a lot more thinking about why the world is the sad and sorry place it is, with so much fighting and killing and sadness. All the problems in the world basically boil down to your same argument – “they are different to us so I don’t like them.”

Try to love more, and hate less. The world could do with a lot less hate. Understand that each human being is special, and should be able to do whatever they want to do, as long as they aren’t hurting anyone else. Once you accept that, you will see life in a very different way…