Some say that they are the one of the most victimized people in the world and it is true to some extent. In some nations they are looked down upon and in some they have equal status.
I personally do not look down upon them, but I do not also believe that they were born as homosexuals which is what medical science says now without any proof. I believe that they have chosen to be homosexuals.
When God created humans he made them male and female and God has also said that a man and woman will be joined together as one when they get married. God did not say that a man and man or a woman and woman will be joined together.
Some people who are homosexuals have been abused when they were young that has caused them to turn to homosexual relationships.
It is also believed that homosexuality rises out of a mental imbalance and when treated it can be corrected. Medical Science has not understood how the brain works fully so any treatment is still far away.
Homosexuality is a behavior and a habit like smoking, boozing, drug addiction, etc. Are people born smokers, are they born to booze, are they born as drug addicts – no but it is a choice that they make as they progress in life. The difference is that this is a very hard habit to quit and it gets deeply embedded in a person’s lifestyle.
My aim is not to spread hatred towards homosexuals but to bring to light the misconceptions surrounding the condition of these people. I dislike people who incite hatred towards homosexuals or pass remarks at them, rather they need all our compassion and help to bring them out of this situation so that they can lead normal lives.
Nov 13, 2006 at 4:50 pm
Well I also think homosexuality comes down to a choice. It’s like being a vegetarian or not. We may be naturally inclined to eat or not to eat meat, but ultimately it’s a conscious choice that we have to make.
What leads to the choice is a combination of genetics and social conditioning. An effeminate boy (genetics) is more likely to be gay as an adult than a masculine one. This is probably because of how he is regarded by the society at a young age and how he develops his gender identity (social conditioning).
I don’t believe in the gay mantra that some of us are born gay and the others are straight and there’s a clear seperation. It’s not as black and white as that.
Gay sex does not serve the primary biological function of intercourse – reproduction, but it serves the secondary ones – love, companionship, physical intimacy etc. I don’t think it’s necessary to make them normal. If they are happy being gay let them be gay. I don’t have a problem with gays unless they try to hit on me. I once bashed up a guy who did, but that’s more like self defence than homophobia.
I don’t personally like some aspects of the gay subculture, but I could say the same about rednecks, computer geeks, religious people etc. I do get offended when men kiss in public or where lipstick. On the other hand I quite like lesbians – but not butch ones.
Let them be gay and happy bro. Happiness is the greatest wealth. God is an uptight prude and probably a closet homosexual and we don’t have to do as he said.
Nov 13, 2006 at 5:47 pm
Homosexuality almost certainly has a significant biological component, as do most traits. In fruit flies orientation is as simple as one gene Institute of Molecular Biotech). Human traits are much more complex. One way of looking at it is twin studies (two people with the exact same genes). One often repeated result is a high correlation between identical twins and less among fraternal –
J. Michael Bailey and Richard Pillard also studied the gayness between MZ twins, DZ twins, and non-related adopted brothers. They examined how many of the sample population examined were gay and how many were straight. They found that 52% of MZ twins were both self-identified homosexuals, 22% of DZ twins were so, and only 5% of non-related adopted brothers were so (AllPsych)
Most scientists confer that there is a genetic component to homosexuality (honestly, there’s a genetic component to any trait, and the correlation for homosexuality is more than most). It seems to be maternally passed, on the X chromosome, as reported in the book Search for the Gay Gene.
What Mr. Hamer reported in 1993 was that in families having two gay brothers, 33 of the 40 pairs of brothers shared a piece of the X chromosome, significantly more than the 20 pairs of brothers who would have been expected to inherit the same chromosomal terrain by chance alone. Mr. Hamer also found that a gay man was much likelier to have gay male relatives on the maternal side of the family than on his father’s side, further evidence of something of interest on the X chromosome, which in men is always passed along from the mother. The molecular and genealogical evidence together suggested that a gene or genes embedded in the wilderness of the X chromosome somehow contribute to male sexual orientation.
Besides straight genetics, even the reception of the hypothalamus is different in gay men. There is definitely a significant ‘nature’ component to homosexuality.
a team of Swedish neuroscientists scanned people’s brains as they smelled a testosterone derivative found in men’s sweat and an estrogen-like compound found in women’s urine. In heterosexual men, a part of the hypothalamus (the seat of physical drives) responded to the female compound but not the male one; in heterosexual women and homosexual men, it was the other way around (Steven Pinker, via Times)
That is, it’s hard to make a ‘choice’ when you’re hypothalamus is wired funny. Regardless there is a significant agreement that homosexuality has a genetic component, and no serious scientist would say that there is ‘no’ correlation. The twin studies alone are highly replicable. There is also significant homosexual behavior in animals, especially our close cousins the Bonobo chimpanzees.
The official psychological diagnostic manual (DSM) hasn’t included homosexuality as a ‘mental disease’ since 1973, and for good reason. Homosexuality isn’t ‘treatable’ beyond rewiring the brain and society, nor is it especially desirable to do so.
Mental Illnesses are not things that make you different (otherwise brilliance and love of soap operas might be ‘disorders’). Disorders are generally pathological, they cause suffering and impair work and relationships. Numerous studies have shown that homosexuality is not pathological, they can actually be very happy and high functioning people with about the same chances as anybody.
Hooker concluded from her data that homosexuality is not a clinical entity and that homosexuality is not inherently associated with psychopathology.
Hooker’s findings have since been replicated by many other investigators using a variety of research methods. Freedman (1971), for example, used Hooker’s basic design to study lesbian and heterosexual women. Instead of projective tests, he administered objectively-scored personality tests to the women. His conclusions were similar to those of Hooker. (UC Davis
The American Psychological Association now has a detailed statement on the acceptance of homosexuality and why condemning it as a disorder was a shameful part of their past.
Homosexuality is natural and normal, and science is proving that more and more. Belief is a bit slower to change.
Nov 13, 2006 at 6:38 pm
You seem to have based your conclusion of showing compassion and “helping” gays become “normal” on the “fact” that God said that what is normal is for a man and woman to be joined together as one and not man and man or woman and woman.
God also said to turn the other cheek, yet we choose to slap back; He said to love your neighbour, yet we kill each other; ; He said let there be light, yet we choose to live in darkness.
In reality, God is swept away only to be brought out to substantiate whatever argument one chooses to make.
When you see two men/ two women hugging/kissing in public, they may offend you. Yet not a man/ woman doing the exact same thing. Why? Cos God said so? No, isn’t it really cos the man and woman is assumed to be in love? Why not the two men/ women then? At the end of the day what it comes down to is, under such judgments, only SOME people can love, not EVERYONE.
A man can love a man and a woman can love a woman just as much as a man can love a woman and vice versa. Who are we to question that love? Why must we run around trying to “cure” love when we could be using that time to “cure” all the hatred that exists so openly around us that we choose not to acknowledge?
Nov 13, 2006 at 7:07 pm
Interesting, but what proof do you have that this so called “God” of yours exists? Also, what makes you feel qualified to pass judgement on what is “normal” and what isn’t? You say that some people turn homosexual due to being abused as children, but what makes those who were not abused as children turn to homosexual behaviour? Also, if homosexuality is the cause of a medical imbalance, then how can we be sure that heterosexuality is not the cause of such imbalance as well? What we are biologically capable of is not always what’s best of us is it?
Nov 13, 2006 at 11:03 pm
[...] Homosexual people are slowly and rightly gaining the rights and respect they deserve. I cheer every time they get marriage rights in Europe, Canada and the States because that means society is coming closer to supporting and cultivating those relationships, which in turn make society stronger. In Sri Lanka, however, homosexuality is still illegal, shamefully. Globally, though, people are beginning to understand that homosexuality is something people are, and that there’s nothing pathological about it. All the psychological and biological research is leading to these conclusions, that there is a genetic component to homosexuality, and that it is not a mental disorder. However, there is still a lot of disagreement, intolerance, and plain hatred. Therefore, this post is in response to a civil but misguided post by the self-proclaimed True Sri Lankan. It is a very brief discussion of the biological and psychological aspect, posted as a (as yet unpublished) comment there. [...]
Nov 14, 2006 at 2:54 am
[...] An interesting discussion in the Sri Lankan blogosphere on homosexuality. True Sri Lankan appears to believe that homosexuality is not natural, however homosexuals should not be hated and instead need compassion. Indi.ca responds by point out that homosexuality is not a pathological condition to be treated. Neha Viswanathan [...]
Nov 14, 2006 at 7:50 am
// The truth behind Homosexuality // I don’t know is that The Truth or not. But homosexuals surely find something interested behind them.
Nov 14, 2006 at 10:26 am
your goal is as bad, or even worse, than being downright hateful towards homosexuals.
Nov 14, 2006 at 7:54 pm
we are all more or less bisexual genetically. if some ppl feel they do not have a choice whether to be a “homosexual” or a “heterosexual” it is for them to judge. not for anyone else.
Nov 15, 2006 at 2:47 pm
[...] True Sri Lankan A blog from Sri Lanka for the whole world « The truth behind Homosexuality [...]
Nov 16, 2006 at 10:06 pm
[...] it seems that no matter how many people i’ve met, there will always be those that just shock me. many say that this post (and this one, i can’t tell which is worse) shouldn’t be all that shocking, but i’m simply hysterical with just that : shock. [...]
Nov 19, 2006 at 2:49 pm
“When God created humans he made them male and female and God has also said that a man and woman will be joined together as one when they get married. God did not say that a man and man or a woman and woman will be joined together.”
God? Fuck God. Stop taking the Bible so seriously.
Nov 24, 2006 at 9:07 pm
“When God created humans he made them male and female and God has also said that a man and woman will be joined together as one when they get married. God did not say that a man and man or a woman and woman will be joined together.”
What a load of horse doo doo…..This so called God also made intersex people (or hermophrodites) and all those redneck bigots out there as well!!! Bottom line….don’t try to put words into God’s mouth or question his wisdom…ALL humans were created equally…yes even the homosexual ones…..so put that in your pipe and smoke it.
And if one really chooses to be Homosexual as some assert, why on earth would you choose to be someone reviled and marginlaised by society, disowned by family and friends and bashed by gay bashers and skin heads??
Dec 2, 2006 at 2:20 pm
Okay, I’m a young teen, and a homosexual. (not out of closet) You guys confuse me more. You are not helping. So either backup your shit or stfu.
Yes, we should believe in God, many proves. Look around you. Simplest example, how do you think the universe run? space? stars? moons? Why don’t we get shit from the space hitting earth and destroying us? Why is there so much logic and everything runs logically in life. (Except disasters, wars, etc..) Like flow of water, energy, light. There is a system.. Just think about it.. and if u have da brain and some logic, you should come up with the conclusion that, yes there is God.
Next, I been confused about my sexuality for years now, and I still can’t find the convincing answer to either side. On what basis are you saying a 12 year old would make the choice of becoming gay? How much do they know about sexuality at that age anyways? Especially coming from an eastern society where you really dont hear about this concept of homosexuality. There has to be more to it than just ‘choice’. Everything happens for a reason, maybe, but if homosexuality is a sin as some say, then, what’s better, lying about yourself and pretending to be someone else, or come out and live a healthy life (or….not)
But then I ask myself, why God prohibited same sex relationship? Diseases? Parenthood? Yes and Yes. But God also said that premarriage sex is a bad idea.
But life has changed so much that diseases can be avoided with protection. But parenthood. Umm. Can 2 guys raise childern? Not sure. I think they can, but will society help them? I do not think so.
I know i’m going all over the place, but I do have certain believes and I’m sticking with them. And I do believe that homosexuality is not about choice; a lot more into it. Homosexuals need support and care so they can be of some value to the society rather than be degraded and suppressed.
And btw.. why don’t we respect each other please.
Thanks.
Dec 7, 2006 at 5:31 am
I love Sri Lanka and enjoy reading your blog. You speak your mind, which I admire.
You say: ‘Some people who are homosexuals have been abused when they were young that has caused them to turn to homosexual relationships.’
Did you consider that young gay people may be targeted by abusers? I am a gay man. I knew I was different, though not the word ‘gay’, when I was quite young. I also know that a young person with a ’secret’ who is isolated and confused is an ideal target for abusers.
Young gay people, or people who think they might be gay, are lonely and scared because of homophobia and the reaction they might get from friends and family. This means that they cannot speak to anyone about their true feelings. An adult abuser spots this isolation, becomes their friend and then abuses this trust.
An end to homophobia would increase protection for young vulnerable people because they could speak openly about their lives and feelings to friends and family.
Dec 7, 2006 at 1:02 pm
I agree with you Bob. Homophobia should end, not to allow more “gays” to do whatever they want, but just the last part u said of them speaking about their lives and feelings is crucial. (Giving those poor ppl, including me a break!). I’m 20, and still don’t know what to do. Do I want to share my life with another guy and most likely be disrespected and not tolerated from family.. Or try to move on and find a girl and marry her and get kids etc… Ahhhhhhhh I do not know.
But then again, I go around, and see people with disabilities, illness, missing eye, missing leg, etc… And I look at myself and say I’m healthy, living and can analyze & think properly. Thank God.
Apr 19, 2007 at 11:36 pm
First of all, there is no god. God is a human invention to provide answers when the true answers can not be easily found. The blble you quote, the quran, the bagavita and all the other “holy books” were written by men, so there is no magic in quoting them, as though they provide authoritarian proof of anything.
Secondly, no one chooses his or her sexuality. It is simply a characteristic of who they are. It is, however, the product of a number of factors including genetics, development and experiences. But one’s sexual desires quite simply are not the product of choice.
Just as certain as there are countless varieties in human appearance and personality the exact nature of an individual’s sexual orientation is just as varied. It ranges from exclusive attraction to the same or opposite sex and includes everything in between. True, heterosexuality is the norm in humans as it does serve an important hereditary function. But all the varieties that exist naturally occur and most are equally viable to the individual and within society, except where the religion and other false beliefs cause humans to cast erroneous judgements upon one another.
To any gay person, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, etc. whose sexuality is maligned by a misguided society who foolishly basis its understanding of reality on a false belief in god, be strong, accept yourself for exactly who you are and support others who like you are unfairly maligned.
To the god-fearing among you, faith is a personal perogative. I dare say it is also less a product of choice than circumstance and conditioning. Nevertheless, every good human should love you and accept you despite the fact that you are misguided. My hope is that you will let others be who they are and not seek to use your antiquated texts to pass judgement.
Al least, True Sri Lankan, you seek to be compassionate instead of cruel and self-righteous like more crusading christians. But you must be aware that your faith has no authority among those who do not share it.
Apr 20, 2007 at 12:00 am
May I offer one more critique to True Sri Lankan. You say,
“Homosexuality is a behavior and a habit like smoking, boozing, drug addiction, etc.”
No, my friend, this statement is completely wrong. Homosexuality is a sexual orientation (not a behavior) like heterosexuality. It cannot be equated to physically self-destructive practices like smoking, boozing and drug addiction. You have chosen to equate homosexuality with three patterns of behaviour which involve the intake of chemical substances that alter chemical processes and damage human cells. You have to compare like with like. Homosexuality, like heterosexulity, is concenerd with sexual attraction, emotional desires and how one acts upon such a predisposition. If your point is to say that homosexuality is addictive then it is no more or no less so than heterosexuality. There are negative consequences to gratuitous sexual gratification irrespective of whether it is hetero or homosexual in nature.
Oct 4, 2007 at 12:07 pm
I think that you are ALL wrong. Homosexuality is a question, not a choice. When one engages in homosexual acts, he is asking him/herself a question. Am I gay? Am I a lesbian? If he or she cannot come to the conclusion within a normal amount of time, he or she may engage in more homosexual acts to further solidify the answer in himself or herself. Therefore, it is the opion of SQR that homosexuality is one that needs to stand to reason, not be reasoned with.
Oct 29, 2007 at 11:33 pm
I couldn’t even read this entrie article.. the first couple of paragraph are what got me so upset. You believe gays choose to be gay, that’s fine, it’s your opinion, but to say that GOD made a man and a woman to come together as one and be marriaged.. that’s such bullshit!! If someone is in love no matter who they are in love with let them be.. they aren’t hurting you if you don’t like it too bad. I’m sure there are things about you that other people don’t like but they don’t say anything about it out of respect to you. If you want to go with the “GOD” approch to this argument, he also taught to love one another unconditionally, no matter. why don’t you start there!!
Jan 13, 2008 at 2:19 am
First like you said in the first paragraph that gay people are one of the most victimized groups in the world. If they are, then why would they choose to be gay.
Second, not all people believe in the Bible or a god that tells them that they are living their lives incorrectly, so you cannot tell people that god thinks they are wrong. There is more evidence in the world that being a homosexual is inborn than there is the evidence of there being a god.
Third you said that being a drug addict or an alcoholic is a choice and not inborn. Actually there is evidence that if you are born into a family that has a history of alcoholics, you would have more of a chance of becoming an alcoholic.
Maybe if you just thought for a second about what you were saying you would realize that you are wrong. Homosexuality is common among most animals and I do not believe that they have the ability to choose like humans. It is natural for them just like in humans. Just one question, When did you ever choose be heterosexual?
Feb 26, 2008 at 2:40 am
stop smoking information
stop smoking information
Apr 6, 2008 at 11:54 am
your an idiot, there is a lot of genetic proof for homosexuality’s root in the genome. not only has science made gay bees and gay rams using genetics but they have even found the specific parts of the brain and hormones that cause it. i do agree however that other factors may help but there is clearly a genetic components so your statement “medical science says now without any proof” is erroneous. have sources before you say that shit next time.
Apr 19, 2008 at 7:21 pm
Dear True Sri Lankan,
I’m homosexual but also another true Sri Lankan.
You say …“Homosexuality is a behavior and a habit like smoking, boozing, drug addiction, etc.”
Well being a Sri Lankan and living in a culture where homosexuality is frowned upon I haven’t engaged in any acts of homosexuality and thus no visible behaviors that you could point out ! So I do not think you can classify homosexuality as a behavior.
Futher more though I know I’m a homosexual , it is only one part of who I am and does not define me fully. Unlike the ‘gay’ stereotype people have come to believe in, I’m a quite a spiritual person and would like to achieve something beyond this life time.
I’m a believer that both nature and nurture has a part to play in ones sexual orientation.
As far as God comes to play, being a Buddhist by philosophy I do not believe in God…and do not see why you choose to judge me by your religious views.
You called me UNNATURAL
You called me UNGODLY
You called me ABUSED
You called me MENTALLY IMBALANCED
You called me similar to DRUGADICT/SOMOKER/DRINKER
How every I’m no none of these!
Then you go on to say..
“My aim is not to spread hatred towards homosexuals but to bring to light the misconceptions surrounding the condition of these people. I dislike people who incite hatred towards homosexuals or pass remarks at them, rather they need all our compassion and help to bring them out of this situation so that they can lead normal lives”
Either you are a hypocrite or a mislead heart trying but failing to see the truth.
I hope you find peace within yourself to be able to accept those around you for who they are and not what you want them to be.
May 30, 2008 at 10:41 am
To the true Sri Lankan above, well said!
I too am a Buddhist but heterosexual, and just want to mention that Buddhism is one of the few religious systems that does not condemn homosexuality, prohibit it, or call for homosexuals to be stoned to death (like in the Bible). It’s the Christians who came into the country and criminalised it.
There is no “God” and this “God” has no right to tell people what they can and cannot do, or to tell others to kill and hate on homosexuals.
Christian extremists like “true Sri Lankan” who put the first post up only bring a bad name to Christianity.
Sep 25, 2008 at 12:09 pm
Автор молодец! Тема почти раскрыта. Приглашаю почитать мою статью о авиалегкобыстром автомобиле будущего
Nov 17, 2008 at 9:18 am
I think this article is repulsing. You say it’s a choice… Please fill me in on why anyone would “choose” to be gay? In our world that only brings hardships. I think we can all agree if once we were mature enough to understand, someone asked us. Do you want to be gay or straight? We would all choose straight. I have absolutely nothing against gay people, and i’m not trying to make this sound mean, but if you say its a choice, why would anyone choose that lifestyle? It is not a choice. people aren’t gay because they were beaten. Some may be gay and have been beaten yes, but i do not believe there is a connection. In addition, there were people who were beaten and grew up to be amazing successful people. How can you verify that? I think this article is pretty ridiculous and anyone who agrees with what it’s saying is extremely naive.
Nov 17, 2008 at 11:10 am
I like the fact that true srilankan talks about homosexuality.
Lots of countries like India, Srilanka, lots of men have sex with men because they need to keep their virginity for their marriage. But they do not call themselves as gay. “fooling around” We need to talk about it. There are many gays and lesbians are giving their life – just simply because they are gay.
I am not here to talk about – whether it is a choice or not. Who cares? Why do we have to define everything?
God? Look at the world around you… So many wars.. so many blood river.. for RELIGION… I strongly believe that if there are no religion in this world, our world would be much better place to live.
I am hetero and I am happy with my sexual orientation. I did not choose. It was natural for me to make love to a women. At the same time, my younger brother is gay. He is a great brother and I love him dearly. My parents did not beat him. He got all the love and care in the world and HE ALWAYS WILL.
I am married and have 2 kids. My kids love their gay uncle. The real truth is he is our brother, son, uncle and we do not try to define. We do not try to put a label – “normal” and “ab-normal”. Who am I to define him? Am I normal? Simply because I am making love to a women and he is not?
My parents have always told us – “Live and let live”. Let others to live their own life. Do not make rules and regulations.
Gay, Straight, Bi – all just a title.
Do not try to define everything in life. Certain thing can not be defined. Like God.!
We need to talk about;
In Afghanistan, these poor girls have no rights.
In Africa, many people are dying each and every minute without drinking water.
In India, so many people still living in the slum
Most countries, women are abused my men.
In India – women are burned to live – simply because they were not able to give a birth to a “boy”…
We need to make this world better and prosperous. I am sorry for my english, my mother tongue is french.
We need to love everyone… Who are we to define others…?
Love you all!!!!
PEACE and LOVE
Dec 16, 2008 at 2:35 am
why are gay men so into porn and so promiscuous. i believe they are really unhealthy in their minds…i know hundreds of gay men and most are the same. people seem to be delusional about the facts. not one and i know many gay couples are monogomous..not one…if they spent as much time volunteering as they do running after a STRANGERS genitals man this world would be a better place
Aug 27, 2009 at 4:51 pm
“why are gay men so into porn and so promiscuous. i believe they are really unhealthy in their minds…i know hundreds of gay men and most are the same.”
It is not right….
I am not homosexual, I am a heterosexual person. I don’t think that just being gay or straight you don’t have to watch porn or not to watch porn.
In-fact being a straight I watch porn a lot. So just by watching porn or not you can never judge a person whether he is straight or gay.
Thank You.
God Bless you all!.
Feb 13, 2009 at 2:20 pm
Well… I must first admit im christian based as far as my beliefs of weather or not “homosexuality” is genetically based. However, my major in college is psychology/ human services ( which i have only just begun.. one year in). I don’t exactly believe that being “gay” is formed as soon as you’re born. I mean research from scientists are attempting more and more to prove this to be true, yet.. what will they say about it 100 years from now? Usually science pins something as a fact, yet years later they find that they were wrong.. and it wasnt what it was seemed to be. I believe that the result of being gay, or becoming gay, at whatever age, is brought on strictly through lifestyle and the growing up process. Just as much as beliefs and morals. Usually you become how you were raised, or you rebel against that same thing. Now this is strictly my opinion, nothing is based on any facts. But then again.. facts are only theories that someone portrayed as true, and someone else hasn’t fought against to prove otherwise.
Mar 29, 2009 at 2:03 pm
“I personally do not look down upon them, but I do not also believe that they were born as homosexuals which is what medical science says now without any proof. I believe that they have chosen to be homosexuals.”
That’s bloody ridiculous. I don’t get where you’re getting such an idiotic point of view from. I am a gay teen, and believe me, with our current society, I would do anything to be a genuine heterosexual. With people constantly putting us down and constantly having to hide ourselves, do you honestly think we want such a terrible lifestyle? It’s not a choice at all. I grew up just like my siblings, cousins and friends did, yet we turned out differently.
Just think about this for a second: If sexual orientation is all just a matter of choice, then how come you can’t just magically turn yourself gay?
May 8, 2009 at 9:50 am
Bravo Sean! You speak for all the gay teens out there. Let’s be clear on this. There are very good Buddhists out there who are gay. And Jordon, you probably know many more gays but they’re all in the closet